As we gather this Thanksgiving to reflect on our blessings, I reflect on one of my father, Charlie "Tremendous" Jones' most impactful laws of leadership: Give to Get.
At first glance, this law might sound like a simple transaction—give something to get something in return. But as my father would say, "If you're giving to get, you're not giving; you're trading." True giving happens when we give without expectation, knowing that the act itself is the reward. In doing so, we gain something far greater: a greater capacity to give and a heart full of joy.
Just yesterday, I experienced this firsthand. My husband and I were in a doctor's office waiting room when I overheard a conversation that deeply moved me. A woman checking in behind us learned her overdue bill could lead to collections unless she made a small payment. Despite the kindness of the healthcare provider, I could hear the strain in her voice as she explained her financial hardship.
I approached the counter without hesitation, turned to her, and offered to clear the bill. She was taken aback but graciously accepted, and $65 later, her balance was paid. She thanked me and again explained a bit about her lack of finances. I told her I understood and that it happens. As we were checking out from the appointment, the receptionist handed me a written note on an index card from her that read, "Thank you so much. Merry Christmas. Kathy."
Her words touched my heart, but what stayed with me most was my own reflection: "Thank you for allowing me the gift of giving to you."
At that moment, my father's words: "When you give—whether you get anything or not—you always get a greater capacity to give," surfaced. Everything we have belongs to God, and as His stewards, we are called to give from our abundance. The blessing I received in that simple act of generosity far outweighed the financial cost.
This Thanksgiving, let's reflect on how we can give—truly give—without expectation. Whether it's a kind word, an act of service, or simply our time, giving from the heart changes us. It allows us to see the needs of others and respond with love and compassion.
May your Thanksgiving be filled with gratitude, generosity, and the joy of giving.
With a heart full of thanks,
Tracey Jones
